The other day a professor randomly asked in class, “Which would you rather be, the constant companion or the great memory?” She’s obviously alluding to relationships. I was perked up to my toes, having just come out of a two-year relationship. I was forced to ask that question to myself, because, truth be told, I still don’t know what I want right now.
Other classmates started answering questions. But I pondered more. What do I reallywant? Due to my recent hurts, I told myself I want to be the constant companion, sticking by the person I love ’til the end, ’cause that’s what I expect of that person as well. But what use is a constant companion when you don’t make great memories anymore, when you’re just bound by your pact to stay together? Hirap no?
In the middle of the conversation, she asked me, “JM, ikaw. Are you gay?” This definitely blew me away, but I quickly retaliated, “Ay ma’am, hindi po.” She gave out a smile, and asked me instead, “Ah, so you’re feminine lang, effeminate?” obviously alluding to some of my mannerisms that could very easily be mistaken as gayish or effeminate. Good thing I was on my toes that day, because I was able to utter out a quick yet witty response, “Ah hindi po, ma’am, taga-Maskom lang po talaga ako,” to which the whole class erupted in laughter.
Totoo naman. Pwede namang hindi ka bading, hindi ka bakla, pero asal-bakla o asal-bading ka. Kaya nga may babaeng bakla eh. Mannerisms lang ‘yan, and I think it’s offending to the gay population to stereotype or box them into those mannerisms. Fluid ang sexuality, at oppressive ang labels.
O diba biglang may critical analysis ng sexuality. Anyway, going back to the question. Naisip ko na isasagot ko, sabi ko, “Ma’am, I’d rather be the great memory, but I’d rather have the constant companion.” Ooooooha meganon. Best of both worlds! Totoo naman. Hahaha.
Ang daya ko daw sabi ni Ma’am. 
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April 8th, 2009 at 4:58 pm
onga, why not have both?!
and yes, most of the maskom guys i’ve met [if not all] are usually seen as “effeminate”. pew pew pew stereotypes.
May 5th, 2009 at 9:30 am
Wahaha grabe talaga tong stereotyping pati yung older generations marunong nag magstereotype. Haha.
June 1st, 2009 at 8:18 pm
“Which would you rather be, the constant companion or the great memory?”
aaaw i love it!
anyway, yeah im a masscom student too and stereotyped talaga! pero ung iba naman proven na haha.
i can relate to the question of your prof nga pala..i chose to be the memory =)
October 15th, 2009 at 8:10 pm
Good answer. hehehehe
July 21st, 2010 at 11:59 am
I do not stereotype gays, gays can be interested in female’s stuff, and gays can be interested in male’s stuff in a way they can handle masonry, construction, basketball and gym. This can be mistakenly straight but they fiercely love boys. I found one like “Rukawa” in “Slumdunk”, an anime. That Rukawa embraced Sendo (both male) suddenly and he expressed his hot desire to Sendo (a straight boy) on an episode. They are rival team of Rukawa’s Shohoku and Sendo’s Kainan! See, they are lot playing basketball without any gay’s make-up.
So be wary, gays can be in form of a friend, of a team, of a buddy, of a ‘repapips’ that suddenly will strip his pretention to show that he loves you. They can wear a male’s attire mistakenly .Huh! And he may love you, and he may show that to you! So do not stereotype them!!!
Dennis A. Tanchingco
19 years old
Muntinlupa City