Recently I met up with a friend whom I haven’t seen for quite a long time.  He just broke-up with his girlfriend of more than a year and suffice to say, he was a bit depressed about it.  We willingly joined him as he talked about what happened in their relationship and all the realizations he’s made because of their bitter break-up.

While trying to explain the nature of her ex-girlfriend’s attitude, he ventured a guess and told me that she has a very painful childhood that’s why she’s acting the way she does.  Upon hearing this, I immediately grew angry because it reminded me of a “friend” I had back then who always made an excuse out of her painful experiences in the past.

I don’t know if I’m alone in my perception that we shouldn’t be dwelling on our past and making it an excuse to act lousilly in the present.  People who dwell in their bad experiences in the past are hopeless.  They’re not going to be understood by people if they continue to slap their painful experiences to justify their present shortcomings.  I am just enraged because there are a lot of people who suffer a bigger deal of pain and yet they don’t perceive life negatively and instead use their painful experiences as stepping stones to turn their lives around.

People like my friend’s ex-girlfriend and this “friend” of mine is hopeless.  They need medical attention.  But I don’t think even that can save them.  Only they can help themselves.

Sorry for this little rant, kailangang maipagpag eh.  Hehehe.

8 Responses to “Pains of the Past”
  1. Carol says:

    akoy sumasangayon sayo. wag magpaalipin sa nakaraan. isa pa, wag magpaalipin sa katawan! wag gamiting dahilan ang ‘kasi tao lang’. di dahil natural na mahina ang tao ay dapat tanggapin na lang ang kahinaan at iwagayway ang puting bandila ng mahina. [ang dami pa dapat kaya lang pinutol ko na] bakit ang haba ng comment ko? pasensya JM, kailangan din maipagpag. sorry dito ako nagpagpag. 😀 sana wag ka magalit, agree naman ako sayo e. hehe. 😀

  2. Bru says:

    Grabe. Di ko akalaing affected ka rin pala. Sobrang agree ako sa’yo.

  3. brandon says:

    Ex girlfriends are nothing but drama

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